Saturday, 30 July 2016

10 Sad Facts about Human Trafficking. What Can You Do?

Human trafficking

I'm guessing we've gone past the point of trying to prove that human trafficking is modern-day slavery in its most cruel form...

In case you're still stuck in this phase, just imagine yourself. Imagine yourself, or your sister, or brother, or partner. Imagine going to bed, and being dragged off suddenly in the middle of the night. Next thing you know, you're stripped of all support: no money, no contact with folks, nothing! in a strange environment. You're forced to do unimaginable things to keep alive. Your self-worth is torn to shreds; your trust, violated and you can't even protest... because your 'boss' has not only caged you physically, but emotionally and psychologically!

International Day of Friendship; What does Friendship Mean to You?


These days, friendship is not a simple thing anymore. Maybe once upon a time, you could have just said it's that relationship that two (or more) friends enjoy. Where each person looks out for the wellbeing of the other and help to grow one another.... Where feelings are pure such that even when there are misunderstandings, the next thing is to sort things out for the sake of the friendship. No backbiting or frontpunching, no maliciousness, or envy, or jealousy...

Y.I.M.U

Wednesday, 29 June 2016

The Importance of Hard Work: Life Lessons from Two 'Okada' men...

Beautiful African Lady; portrait

You know the surest thing to get me skeptical about any offer? F.R.E.E!!! That word carry weight abeg. Usually, 'free' stuff have an attachment. Be not deceived, my country pipu, Awoof dey run belle! You really have to give something to get something...

The other day I was gonna get a bike from the bus-stop to my house. Approaching the park, I was already grumbling to myself "All these okada men will come now and start dragging somebody 'Aunty come nah, where you dey go? see my bike here o' "

I sighted this dude signalling me to come with his hand. I was headed towards him when, gbam! another okada man pulled out and rode his bike to park right in front of me! Issorait. My own is to enter bike and go home.

Monday, 6 June 2016

MONDAY MUSING: 4 Life Lessons from Muhammad Ali

Muhammad Ali boxing legend

Since Friday, it's been trending. The great Muhammad Ali is no more. He's being celebrated as a great sportsman who made his mark on not just the boxing ring, but the entire world. Here was a man who I barely knew. Yes, I knew the name 'Muhammad Ali', I knew the famous 'Float like a butterfly; sting like a bee', and I even saw movies (and cartoons) that were produced based on his story. But for most of the years when Ali was in action, I wasn't even born. And yet, here I am, gleaning life lessons from him.   

1. Your mouth was meant for much more than eating.

"I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew I was" - Muhammad Ali
No doubt, Ali was a man of words. Asides boxing, he was also known as a great orator with many quotes attributed to him. With his own mouth, he clearly defined his destiny. He didn't wait to see the titles and accolades before saying he was the greatest. Even the Bible says "The word is nigh thy mouth. Speak it". Call it bragging, or say he overdid it, but the man did what so many of us never feel bold enough to do. He took charge of his own destiny and started with what he had: His voice.

Friday, 3 June 2016

Dealing with Disagreements in a Relationship

African couple discussing


Disclaimer: Although “relationship” here refers primarily to romantic ones, the points raised could be very well applied to ANY kind of relationship.

Disagreements are normal. That is why it’s pretty unrealistic to say you want to AVOID them. You can work on not having too many of them, but you won’t be able to avoid them TOTALLY {except maybe you guys are angels, I dunno}. So why not equip yourself with the right ways to deal with them?

Everyone has disagreeements. EVERYONE! but personally, I think they appear larger and hurt more when we're in it with somebody we love, especially when we feel that we've been hurt by that person. It's usually a nasty place to be, no matter how short the stay. I read somewhere that some couples take the FIGHT, FLIGHT or FREEZE route. What do these mean?

Thursday, 12 May 2016

Alma Mater Chronicles: What Happens When You Go Back?

Young girl smiling

Back to the Alma Mater. No, not University of Lagos. Reagan Memorial Baptist Girls' Secondary School {R.M.B.G.S.S}, and yes, I reaaaaaally do have to write it in full. Write 'Reagan Baptist Secondary School' or 'Reagan Girls' School' or any other thing, and you're not talking about the wonderful school I attended. Nope!

Now that that's been settled, let's talk about the lessons. Of course, I didn't go there to sit in a class or anything but you know what they say about the School of Life- you never graduate. I was at Reagan with Longtime Bae, AY, and couldn't help picking up these:

Friday, 29 April 2016

Picking an Outfit for Your Next Owambe {Lagos Party}

Owambe; Lagos party
Image:Google
Am I the only 'Lagos girl' who does not like Owambes? No hating, but my ideal party is not more than 10 friends hanging out somewhere relaxed with as little noise and as much real talk as possible. The 'typical' Lagos Party - Baddest #AsoEbiBella game, Makeup #onfleek, plenty noise and dance- is not really my thing. 
The few I attend, I only end up getting tired too quickly. I usually can't wait to be back home. Of course it helps when I can latch on to a friend as gist partner, but then that one-on-one thing is not easy at these kinds of parties.