We
all say “never judge a book by its cover”, but basically we still do. You see
that young girl, all made up and looking expensive, cruising in a G-wagon, and
you ‘just know’ she’s a ‘Runs’ girl. Maybe sometimes you’re right, but it still
holds no justification for wrongly assessing another person.
“Look
beneath the surface so you can judge correctly”- John 7:24(NLT)
There
are a bunch of myths about Christian women too. It’s like everyday sees a new
generalization being formed. Usually some are just too ridiculous while others
are downright laughable. I asked around with some of my friends and the
following are what we came up with. Shout-out to 3 beautiful women- Ayodeji,
Tolu, Tola, and Bisola who came through on this.
1. CHRISTIAN GIRLS ARE BORING
Ouch!
Because we don’t think it’s cool to get high, party hard, or have wild orgies & sexual escapades does not mean we don’t know what fun means. And more often than not, this is about a person’s personality. Take me for example.
My idea of fun &
relaxation is chilling with a Romance novel, or seeing a movie on my laptop all
alone in a room. But that’s just MY person. It doesn’t mean every Christian lady
out there is the same, or that Christianity forbids fun. I know quite a few Christian
friends who like to get together, hang out, exchange gist, etc.
Ayodeji,
the lovely woman behind Delonix, says:
"They think we're boring and dunno how to have fun. In fact, we had a competition at the office and because I was going to sing a Christian song, I was expected to fail."
2. CHRISTIAN GIRLS MAKE LOUSY LOVERS
ABSURD!
Again, it boils down to a personality issue rather than one of being Christian or
not. Yes, a Christian woman might be found to be a boring lover, but so can a
Muslim woman, or a Bhuddist, or traditionalist, or whatever. You see, the fact
that Christian girls practice The Wait does not mean they’ll make boring
lovers.
I’ll have you know- on good authority, I should add- that quite a number
of us LOOK FORWARD to sharing sex with our husbands according to God’s will. We
look forward to mind-blowing adventures in The Other Room, but WHILE WE’RE
SINGLE, we’re content to be ‘boring’ in this regard.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)
“Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” 1Cor.6:19-20
3. CHRISTIAN GIRLS HAVE TERRIBLE PASTS.
Ayodeji:
“Some people I've met say that for a lady to be all calm and spiritual, then she's got a terrible past! Well, this could be true, but it doesn't apply to every lady.”
4. THEIR 'HOLIER-THAN-THOU' ATTITUDE SCARES MEN OFF
It’s
all shades of wrong when you see an unmarried Christian lady, and conclude it’s
because of a self-righteous attitude. You say they can’t get cool men because
no man wants to stick around for a ‘sister’. One of Ayodeji’s colleagues actually
told her she can’t date cool guys…
Why
do folks say these things sef? I dun gerrit!
5. CHRISTIAN GIRLS ARE NAIVE & STUPID
Tolu:
“It's in all areas but specifically in relationships, people think Christians are naive and do not really know what's up so they can be cheated easily”
Tola, creator of Livestrong:
Issokay. I’m not disputing the fact that some Christian women have been blinded by religion (not Christ), but please do not conclude it’s like that everywhere. Before one sister wee goan shock you, then you wee now coman be saying she’s not Christ-like. It's the same thing with this 'submission' thing. Some people think Christian women are supposed to become fools; Yes-men with absolutely no opinion or contribution of their own.
"Some people feel they're easy preys to take advantage of sexually... Once, I was almost kissed by someone I thought was genuinely born again... Right there in my Father's sitting room!"
Prov.9:10- Fear of the Lord is the foundation of Wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in good judgment. |
Issokay. I’m not disputing the fact that some Christian women have been blinded by religion (not Christ), but please do not conclude it’s like that everywhere. Before one sister wee goan shock you, then you wee now coman be saying she’s not Christ-like. It's the same thing with this 'submission' thing. Some people think Christian women are supposed to become fools; Yes-men with absolutely no opinion or contribution of their own.
Here’s what Christ commands
us:
"Look, I am sending you out as sheep among wolves. So be as shrewd as snakes and harmless as doves.” Mt.10:16 (NLT)
#NuffSaid
6. THEY CAN'T HAVE MALE FRIENDS
How
dare you, Christian sister, be having plenty male friends? They say it makes us
appear wayward, and chases away ‘God’s will’. Personally I see nothing wrong in
having many male friends. If we’re talking about the intensity of interactions
with the guys, that’s another issue entirely. But having many male friends and
concluding it chases away God’s will?
7. THEY CANNOT BE FASHIONABLE
Have
you heard “Awon S.U. They don’t know how to dress” before? This couldn’t be
more wrong. Being fashionable or stylish has nothing to do with being Christian
or Muslim or anything. Because a Christian lady is guided by the Holy Spirit
and chooses to honour God with her body, she may not be able to wear some
trending styles, or might make a few modifications to it for the sake of
modesty. But that does NOT mean she isn’t fashionable. I know professing
Christians who have managed to marry an excellent taste in fashion with
modesty.
There's another angle to this... when folks find out a particular fashionable lady is Christian, and they give her a strange look like "How dare you look good?! Aren't you a Christian?"
There's another angle to this... when folks find out a particular fashionable lady is Christian, and they give her a strange look like "How dare you look good?! Aren't you a Christian?"
"She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns" Prov.31:22(NLT)
8. CHRISTIAN GIRLS ARE NOT ROMANTIC
Bisola:
“They believe Christian girls are not romantic, especially when it comes to pet names and playful teasing of the opposite sex.”
Seriously?
Personally,
I don’t know what they’re talking about here. Have they read Songs of Solomon
at all? The Shulamite woman? All that mushy-mushy
stuff?
#NuffSaid
9. CHRISTIAN GIRLS ARE PRETENDERS
Bisola:
"They believe we’re a bunch of pretenders who tend to fake emotions."
Totally
not true. Again, it’s not fair to take experience from one or two people and
generalize. If a lady is pretentious, it’s not because she’s Christian; she
just is.
That's about it. Do you know of any more weird stuff often believed about Christian sisters? Share in comments below...
Till next time,
Peace & Chocolate Cake,
Mary
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