This is Adeola... DON'T be Like Her... Be Like You {Self-Appreciation}

Y’all seen the latest viral stuff yet? Before somebody attacks me on whether the word “Viral” is accurate or not, lemme clear things up. The word, as used here, is a relative term. It was all over my Facebook, BBM, Insta and generally my corner of the World Wide Web. So to me, it was viral   

I’m not keen on naming it, but suffice it to say it’s the “Be Like” craze. When I first started noticing it, the subject was usually Bob or Jane, and everyone kept putting it up “Bob is this or that, Bob is smart, Be like Bob; Be like Jane”. Not until later did I start seeing the personalized ones. I realized I could also get my story from a website and I did. I was pretty amused by the results. lol

Why did this go viral? Could it be because most of the results given were pretty accurate? Or could it be that innate attraction towards idolization? That ‘something’ in us always seeking someone- or something- else to look up to…

I like this one. Just go back!  source: BBM

Ever come across some ‘Abnormal’ folks? Read This

Source: BBM

Don't kill me for this, Tari 

Beyond the fun in these pictures; beyond the near-accurate results or the fact that it’s ‘cool’ right now… Beyond all these is a lesson or let’s say, a ‘take-away’ principle for us… Yes, there’s something in us that seeks to look up to another entity, MOST TIMES unconsciously sef. Confess it, at one time or the other, you’ve long-throated to ‘Be Like’:

• That cool guy with his equally cool set of wheels, living the fab life (#Beardgang #YorubaDemon on fleek!);

• The popular Insta sweetheart with her ALWAYS #Slay #OnFleek #IwokeUpLikeThis photos!

• The ‘Man of God’, motivational speaker, ‘brother’ and ‘sister’ whose lives (as we see it o!) are full of inspiration;

• The couple endlessly declaring their love for each other on social media (#Relationshipgoals)

• The mother of 5 who effortlessly rocks a Size 8 (#Fitfam ti takeover!)

…so many instances can be given

Source: Facebook

Oosheyyy!

But… do you often think to ‘Be Like You’? Do we take a look at ourselves and STRIVE towards being ‘me’? I hope I’m not misunderstood here. There’s nothing wrong with having a role model or mentor or someone we look up to. There’s nothing wrong with ADMIRING specific qualities in someone else. The ‘ish’ is in you OBSESSING over it.

Fear: The silent killer

Source: BBM

Of course, who are we not to Be Like Jesus 

Lemme not talk too much. The next time you think to ‘emulate’ somebody (or something), just remember not to lose yourself in the process.

Tips on Battling Low-Self Esteem

Peace and Chocolate cake,

Love,

Mary